Women: Write

So what’s stopping you? No, really? Lately I’ve had several conversations with women who want to start writing but seem overwhelmed with reasons that they shouldn’t. My best advice: just start writing and don’t worry about what other people think.

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Stalking via Revenge Porn

Stalking via revenge porn – an infographic. Human Rights vs. Stalkers posted this information last week and it’s worth reblogging. Originally from EndRevengePorn.org— check it out– it puts the sharing of sensitive photos without the victim’s consent squarely where it belongs, in the stalking category.

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“Real” Domestic Violence

Indoctrinated. Zealot. Bigot. Feminist. Liberal. Social engineer. Man hater. Extremist. These are just some of the names I’ve been called over the years, including by fellow law enforcement employees, for standing up to domestic violence. I’m a Christian conservative woman who, yes, is passionate about being a good steward of the environment and is outspoken […]

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Blaming the Victims

Every time the topics of abuse, dysfunction, and boundary violations come up, I cringe, knowing that the same old sanctimonious rhetoric is about to slither up my neck like a decrepit, toxic snail: “We’ll pray for you. You need let go of your unforgiveness. We hope that the root of bitterness will be dug out.” […]

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DV Awareness Month

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, a time when pink ribbons and bracelets are everywhere because one in eight women will fight breast cancer in her lifetime. But October is also Domestic Violence Awareness Month, signified by the color purple, acknowledging that one in four women will be a victim of domestic violence. Given the […]

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Susan Cox Powell Video

KOMO News has revealed that missing and presumed murdered Susan Cox Powell made a video documenting the state of her marriage in 2008– and had a secret will and testament that told people if she dies, it’s not an accident. See: http://www.komonews.com/news/local/Police-release-chilling-video-Susan-Powell-made-before-disappearance-208583251.html This is what victims of abuse and those concerned with their family’s well-being SHOULD […]

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Text Dude

Young ladies (including those in my life), listen up. It’s time for some straight talk about guys who consider texting a primary form of communication or an appropriate way to get to know you. As evidenced in previous blog posts on grammar and communication skills, I feel that texting is the devolution of the English […]

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Crises and Control

Want control? Create a crisis. In a crisis people are desperate for solutions and will often consent to the quickest fix to avoid further adverse effects from the emergency. Steeped in crisis-fueled emotions, reason can take an abrupt back seat (or fly out the window) because we want to be rescued.

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Documentation

Typing furiously before he got home, I decided to make another copy. I cut the entire document, many months of notes, from the hard drive and pasted it on the disc whirring in its slot. At that point I knew that a record of all of the threats, all of the frightening behavior, and my […]

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Play-Doh Men

No! No! I jumped onto the next log dammed across the murky water, then onto a piece of driftwood. The grey sky arced overhead like a bird of prey with its wings unfurled as I jumped towards shore. Why I hadn’t fallen into the pond yet I didn’t know, because that’s where they were with […]

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