It’s Okay. She’s Muslim.

So your worthless wife or girlfriend wants to get a divorce/break up/move on/have guy friends/wants to work outside the home/didn’t heat your dinner up enough/disapproved of you wanting to bring other women in the relationship/looked at you funny/didn’t iron your pants/wants to go to school/didn’t feel like having sex. And you killed her. Because she […]

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Women: Write

So what’s stopping you? No, really? Lately I’ve had several conversations with women who want to start writing but seem overwhelmed with reasons that they shouldn’t. My best advice: just start writing and don’t worry about what other people think.

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One Year Ago Today

It was one year ago today that Bothell resident Susann Smith was savagely murdered at her home. It is one of the most horrific domestic violence homicides I know of. This German-born mother of two was subjected to deliberate violations and atrocities designed to maximize her suffering and ultimately take her life.

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Stalking via Revenge Porn

Stalking via revenge porn – an infographic. Human Rights vs. Stalkers posted this information last week and it’s worth reblogging. Originally from EndRevengePorn.org— check it out– it puts the sharing of sensitive photos without the victim’s consent squarely where it belongs, in the stalking category.

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Reynolds Murder Update

954, you will not be forgotten. That’s how I concluded my January 12th, 2012 post on the murder of former Washington State trooper Ronda Reynolds. The post’s title was borrowed from the Ann Rule book about her death, In the Still of the Night.  Yesterday The Chronicle in Lewis County reported that Reynolds former husband and stepson are […]

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“Real” Domestic Violence

Indoctrinated. Zealot. Bigot. Feminist. Liberal. Social engineer. Man hater. Extremist. These are just some of the names I’ve been called over the years, including by fellow law enforcement employees, for standing up to domestic violence. I’m a Christian conservative woman who, yes, is passionate about being a good steward of the environment and is outspoken […]

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Blaming the Victims

Every time the topics of abuse, dysfunction, and boundary violations come up, I cringe, knowing that the same old sanctimonious rhetoric is about to slither up my neck like a decrepit, toxic snail: “We’ll pray for you. You need let go of your unforgiveness. We hope that the root of bitterness will be dug out.” […]

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DV Awareness Month

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, a time when pink ribbons and bracelets are everywhere because one in eight women will fight breast cancer in her lifetime. But October is also Domestic Violence Awareness Month, signified by the color purple, acknowledging that one in four women will be a victim of domestic violence. Given the […]

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CDD is Heresy

Have you ever seen steam coming out of someone’s ears? Recently I was listening to a domestic violence expert describe the supposedly biblical practice of Christian Domestic Discipline. Righteous anger started lapping at my feet and slowly radiated throughout my body as I listened to how “true Christian husbands” are given license to hit their […]

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