GBV? IPV? FV? DV?

Photo by Road Trip with Raj on Unsplash What is it called anymore? I’m increasingly hearing about the confusion surrounding the term gender-based violence. Its definition seems to be subjective, subject to the region, country, or government that may be using it. Gender-based violence, or GBV, is often being used in lieu of domestic violence, […]

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Unspacific

Never be afraid to raise your voice for honesty and truth and compassion against injustice and lying and greed. If people all over the world… would do this, it would change the earth. William Faulkner Headlines exploded all over the world in late November 2022: She’s been found! The Pacific has been found! Stunned, I […]

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A Supreme Act of Cowardice

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness. Martin Luther King Jr. Yesterday the face of the cowardly alleged murderer who took the lives of four young people in their beds was revealed to the world. The 28 year-old suspect in the […]

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In Control

Why didn’t she leave? Why wasn’t there an arrest? We didn’t see anything wrong; they seemed like the perfect couple. These are the statements people often make when they learn about an abusive relationship, especially when one ends in homicide. Assumptions about domestic violence are rife in modern society. We tend to armchair quarterback others’ […]

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WA State Needs a Stalking Update

Washington State needs an update to its stalking laws. To date I can’t get any state legislator I’ve contacted to respond. I first reached out about this in October of 2021. As I’ve told the legislative committee that should take this forward, this is a non-partisan issue and the RCW is in desperate need of […]

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Vehicular Narcissism

Inflated sense of their own importance. Lack of empathy. Sense of entitlement. Expect special treatment. Believe they are superior. Problems regulating stress. Expect unquestioning compliance with their desires. The rules don’t apply to them. Their time is more important. They must be first. They absolutely, positively MUST be first, regardless of the inconveniences or risks […]

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Love Should Not Hurt

Wow. I just watched this video by Fabio D’Andrea and Mel B. It says everything without saying a word. This is four minutes of truth that showcases the horrifying ebb and flow of an abusive relationship. Abusive relationships don’t start this way. The abuser may sweep the victim off their feet, seeming like a long-awaited […]

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Continuing to Matter

The memorial to the fallen Bothell police officer continued to grow last week. Department employees and volunteers kept a watchful eye on it, removing spent flowers and pulling certain pieces to share with the officer’s family as more tributes arrived. Signs around the community show their support as well. The Yakima Fruit Market, espresso stands, […]

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