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Straight Talk in a Crooked World
Why didn’t she leave? Why wasn’t there an arrest? We didn’t see anything wrong; they seemed like the perfect couple. These are the statements people often make when they learn about an abusive relationship, especially when one ends in homicide. Assumptions about domestic violence are rife in modern society. We tend to armchair quarterback others’ […]
Read More In ControlWow. I just watched this video by Fabio D’Andrea and Mel B. It says everything without saying a word. This is four minutes of truth that showcases the horrifying ebb and flow of an abusive relationship. Abusive relationships don’t start this way. The abuser may sweep the victim off their feet, seeming like a long-awaited […]
Read More Love Should Not HurtIf you have survived abuse, you’ll likely remember many times that your abuser tried to make you feel unstable, unworthy, crazy, and weak. While nowadays this is commonly referred to as crazymaking, it is also called gaslighting. The term gaslighting comes from the 1940 British movie of the same name. While the abuser in the […]
Read More GaslightingThis week I was struck by the power of Death Cab for Cutie’s video for Black Sun. We Northwesterners have been enveloped by the sounds of Death Cab for nearly two decades now, and while I don’t agree with some of their politics or lyrics, certain songs reach down deep. They also have a way of […]
Read More Try and Try AgainEight years ago Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccilo published an obscenity-riddled divining rod to help women sniff out the losers in their lives. He’s Just Not That Into You is an easy read penned by a writer and a consultant for HBO’s Sex and the City. I can’t stand the show, by the way. It was […]
Read More He’s Just Not That Into YouThis story appears in the original Chicken Soup for the Soul book by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen. It is credited to Barry and Joyce Vissell. Why this suddenly popped into my head when I was doing something entirely different I don’t know. It’s a beautiful story. ************************************************************************************* True Love Moses Mendelssohn, the grandfather […]
Read More Super Soul SoupToday a friend who is well aware of my crusade against selfishness and narcissism emailed me this link: http://www.maritalhealing.com/conflicts/selfishspouse.php This article by Dr. Richard Fitzgibbons of the Institute for Marital Healing is lengthy. But it includes a couple of questionnaires to help people determine how selfish they are and where that selfishness comes from.
Read More Selfishness LinkI am very impressed by Psych Central columnist Daniel Tomasulo’s article “Is this an emotional affair?” He nails the key signs and symptoms of emotional affairs and emphasizes how important counseling is for people experiencing this. The reason I am so vocal about emotional affairs is that they are the gateway to full-blown affairs. This […]
Read More Link to Article on Emotional AffairsThis week I find myself mulling over the factors that influence men’s and women’s decisions to argue. And not just argue, but tear each other apart. It’s all around me. It’s an epidemic. We end up feeling sliced, diced, and boiled like rice. It’s an event that can leave strong people in shock, shaking, wondering […]
Read More Verbal Knife FightsIt’s all about you. Or so many popular sitcoms would have women think. Since the early 90s I have puzzled over why so many wife-mother figures on TV nag, nitpick, and otherwise treat their husbands like they’re mindless little boys in need of constant correction. The leading ladies on Home Improvement, King of Queens, and […]
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