Tag: control

In Control

Why didn’t she leave? Why wasn’t there an arrest? We didn’t see anything wrong; they seemed like the perfect couple. These are the statements people often make when they learn about an abusive relationship, especially when one ends in homicide. Assumptions about domestic violence are rife in modern society. We tend to armchair quarterback others’ […]

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Workplace Bullying

Wow! This video, posted online by the advocacy group Dignity Together, is the best summary of workplace bullying that I’ve seen. The target of the bullying is not the problem or the solution, yet employers often treat them as if they’re responsible for the abuser’s actions. Without intervention, the problem will get worse, and there […]

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Crises and Control

Want control? Create a crisis. In a crisis people are desperate for solutions and will often consent to the quickest fix to avoid further adverse effects from the emergency. Steeped in crisis-fueled emotions, reason can take an abrupt back seat (or fly out the window) because we want to be rescued.

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Hypnotic Milfoil

On Sunday I went swimming with family at a local lake. I hadn’t been swimming at that particular spot before, and found that the milfoil was horrible. The kids covered themselves in it and I took pictures of them rising from the shallow water like lake monsters. When we got home, we smelled so bad […]

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