Tag: boundaries

Love Should Not Hurt

Wow. I just watched this video by Fabio D’Andrea and Mel B. It says everything without saying a word. This is four minutes of truth that showcases the horrifying ebb and flow of an abusive relationship. Abusive relationships don’t start this way. The abuser may sweep the victim off their feet, seeming like a long-awaited […]

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Text Dude

Young ladies (including those in my life), listen up. It’s time for some straight talk about guys who consider texting a primary form of communication or an appropriate way to get to know you. As evidenced in previous blog posts on grammar and communication skills, I feel that texting is the devolution of the English […]

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An Ex Is An Ex Is An Ex

Batten down the hatches, folks, because my fuse is lit and crackling like a giant sparkler. After an exchange with a relationship expert who feels much the same way, I am compelled to speak out about the slavery many people live in because of improper boundaries with their exes. Let’s dive right in. You and […]

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Hold On To Your N.U.T.s*

What’s a real man? Is he a “yes, dear” type who begrudgingly acts out the never-ending honey-do list? (Honey-do lists disgust me, by the way.) Is he the guy who continually bottles up his feelings to avoid conflict? Does he allow himself to be used to be viewed as a “nice” guy, stay quiet instead of […]

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The Mainstreaming of Chaos

“Real” housewives. Bad girls. Monster-in-laws. Talk shows. Tabloid-like court shows. These are the new soap operas, the modern purveyors of chaos in American society. We have become captivated by hateful, violent, self-indulgent women without boundaries whose every outfit is worth more than the money it would take to feed several small Indian villages for a […]

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Live to Forgive

Could you forgive and love the man who murdered your mom? This is the question posed to visitors upon arrival at http://livetoforgivemovie.com/, the official site of the new Live to Forgive movie. Dean Smith was 12 when his mother was murdered by his stepfather in Enumclaw, Washington. Haunted by this sudden and violent loss, Dean’s […]

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Time for Billy Quan?

Tonight I was standing in line at the seafood counter of a bustling grocery store. When the employee behind the counter asked, “who’s next?” a young couple practically jumped up and down and said, “us!” To my dismay, a snappily dressed middle aged woman told the employee, who was standing closer to her, “mine’s really quick.” There […]

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Hypnotic Milfoil

On Sunday I went swimming with family at a local lake. I hadn’t been swimming at that particular spot before, and found that the milfoil was horrible. The kids covered themselves in it and I took pictures of them rising from the shallow water like lake monsters. When we got home, we smelled so bad […]

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Mogul Mothers, Suppressed Sons

In J.R.R. Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings trilogy there is a character called Grima Wormtongue. Wormtongue is an advisor to the king of Rohan who is constantly pumping the king full of verbal toxins, keeping the king weak and looking aged beyond his years. When Wormtongue is finally exposed for the controlling, venomous leech he […]

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