A Supreme Act of Cowardice

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness. Martin Luther King Jr. Yesterday the face of the cowardly alleged murderer who took the lives of four young people in their beds was revealed to the world. The 28 year-old suspect in the […]

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WA State Needs a Stalking Update

Washington State needs an update to its stalking laws. To date I can’t get any state legislator I’ve contacted to respond. I first reached out about this in October of 2021. As I’ve told the legislative committee that should take this forward, this is a non-partisan issue and the RCW is in desperate need of […]

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Gaslighting

If you have survived abuse, you’ll likely remember many times that your abuser tried to make you feel unstable, unworthy, crazy, and weak. While nowadays this is commonly referred to as crazymaking, it is also called gaslighting. The term gaslighting comes from the 1940 British movie of the same name. While the abuser in the […]

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Stalker

“He’s a sadistic stalker who preys on their childhood traumas,” mutters the sublimely cool male detective from behind self-important sunglasses as he surveys the scene. He immediately gives a detailed suspect profile as the fourth button on his tailored button-up shirt strains at the stress of his notable pecs. He continues to saunter as his […]

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Why Didn’t You Just Leave?

“So why didn’t you just leave?” The question hit a nerve somewhere near my third thoracic vertebra and sizzled in my right cheek like an antagonized hornet. That question. I hate that question. I’m tired of that question. But I try to use that question to give people a crash course in the dynamics of domestic […]

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Stalking via Revenge Porn

Stalking via revenge porn – an infographic. Human Rights vs. Stalkers posted this information last week and it’s worth reblogging. Originally from EndRevengePorn.org— check it out– it puts the sharing of sensitive photos without the victim’s consent squarely where it belongs, in the stalking category.

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Letter to Editor – 8/16/08

In August of 2008 I was taken aback by a letter to the editor in a local paper regarding a domestic violence-driven murder-suicide. The letter writer scoffed at the suggestion that handcuffs and hardcore porn found in the suspect’s possession had anything to do with the murder. They claimed that such “sensationalist journalism” would start […]

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